Seeing Terrorism Through a Compassionate Heart

It was like going back to those hard times where war was just happening within miles from our doorsteps and there were smoke, sounds of siren and riots everywhere. We would never thought, that our beloved city could be the target of terrorism, much more being bombed in several different locations for the span of just two days.

I sat here and couldn’t help but wonder, what about those parents who just lost both of their children because of the bombing? How would parents feel to have to go through such pain and so many why’s? What about the wife who just lost her husband, leaving her with their baby who is only less than twelve months old? She wouldn’t ever thought that on one fine Sunday morning, when her husband said goodbye to her to volunteer at church as he always does every sunday, that it would be the last goodbye. The amount of suffering seeing our loved ones experiencing a third-degree burns on 80 to 90 percent of their bodies – how could you describe that kind of pain? And tell me, how to carry on?

I still believe, that every human being is capable of love, and that each of us understands what humanity really is. There is not one baby born into this world and all the sudden decided, “I want to be an evil person when I grow up.” You know what I mean? But sadly, this world that we live in, is far from perfect. A once pure, innocent soul can be so mentally damaged by this world that they can become so corrupted that made them think such behavior is justified, with whatever reason it may be whether it be religion or anything else.

But when something incredibly heartbreaking like this happen, and when this is happening in our own backyards, affecting the people that we know of, it could create such hatred and so much anger inside of us, isn’t it? Sometimes we could be too focused on the excuse the terrorists are using to do such thing like this (such as religion in this case) and then we get mad and we point fingers to one another. Isn’t this exactly what terrorism is all about? To be able to create hate within all of us and to eventually leading us to go to war against each other in the end? I understand all of these mixed emotions and feelings but if only we could try to contain all of these pain, anger and hatred energies and transform them all into as much healing energies – to help each one in need, to do something in the best way we possibly could to help others, and to unite in humanity, and to understand, that even for this, there is a greater meaning that God had orchestrated for our lives. We are capable of helping each other and care about each other. We each can do something to make a small difference in other people’s lives. There might not be a lot that we can contribute when something like this happen (unless we’re police officers, doctors, nurses or emergency response team) but at least, we can try to make a difference by doing what we can in ways we know how. How about giving more tips to a taxi driver knowing that he had an awful day because no one wanted to go outside today and just simply giving him encouragement that this will soon be over with. He has a family to go home to today, and probably what he earned wasn’t enough. Maybe just by being kind to a stranger can change his mind about humanity. And maybe, eventually, once we decide to want to be the difference maker in the world, maybe, we could prevent things like this to happen in the future. And maybe, we could see to it that something that was meant to harm us, in actuality made us stronger. Always, always, believe in humanity. Create a better world, if not for us, for our children to live in. Any one of us can make an impact to create a better world. Don’t ever believe that we can’t do anything. We are stronger together.

Matthew West – Do Something

What to wear for New York Fashion Week – More is more is the right word when it comes to NYFW

Hey you gorgeous!

So if you all been following my instagram, you would know that I just recently had the opportunity to attend New York fashion Week and it was in that exact moment that I realized that I truly am so passionately in love with fashion so much.

New York Fashion Week is filled with super fabulous people bringing up their fashion game to the next level – and I really love and enjoy seeing all these gorgeous and fashionable people from all around the world! And plus, I have the perfect excuse to wear the clothes that I want to wear but don’t get to wear on a daily basis. New York fashion Week is that kind of event for me to wear whatever I feel like wearing.

So today I will talk about all of my outfits during NYFW

Outfit #1:


I pair my ruffle sleeve top with a very wide culottes pants, and added the lace socks to complete the look. And I decided to wear my red bag to add a pop of color to brighten up my outfit a little

Outfit #2:


This dress is already the perfect little black dress, which is the combination of elegant, girly yet a little sexy as well. I actually wore a girly pink butterfly heels that night but I finally gave up and wore my flats for the rest of the night ;p Lucky I was wearing a long dress, so the sandal was kinda covered by the dress. I paired the dress with a silver bomber jacket to make the whole look more stylish.

Outfit #3:


The red cape really kinda stand out on itself. I actually love the white top beneath the cape, I will try to style this top with something else later on. I pair the white top with a very cool sparkly leather pants to finish the look.

Outfit #4:


Here I pair a long white shirt with a black cardigan, and seal the look with fishnet tights and a pair of platform brogue.

Outfit #5:


In this outfit, I wear my modernized traditional Indonesian “Batik” pants. I just love the prints on this pants! I pair this with a black sweater with detailed lace sleeves to focus more on the pants.

Outfit #6:


This girly romper skirt seriously makes me feel like a barbie doll. It’s pink, it has flowery details and it’s filled with ruffles, so of course I have to wear this for NYFW. I pair this with a white shirt with some ruffle details on the sleeve and a cute girly butterfly pink heels to finish this girly barbie doll look.

Outfit #7:


I had so much fun wearing this! In here, I pair a yellow tutu sheer dress with a black legging and a black torso wrap, and seal the look with the silver bomber jacket. I decided to use a bright pink clutch to add more color to this already colorful outfit. And I chose this gold platform shoes for this sporty look.

Outfit #8:


A ripped jeans paired with a fishnet top combined with a silver bomber jacket. I chose a more edgy shoes for this whole look.

Outfit #9:


This girly mermaid skirt is paired with a sportier look top and a rockstud shoes for an edgier girly look.

That’s all folks! I hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I love writing it 😉


Until next time, my fabulous people 🙂

A Love Letter – Who Should I Date : Part 2

So in continuation to my previous letter (Is finding the right one for you really worth the wait – Who should I date : Part 1), now let’s talk about the actual love itself shall we

There are many different types of love, like I said previously, depending on what your priorities are. And I can’t say that one is right and the others are wrong, because all types of love are still love. If you want someone to share the same values and hobbies as you, you will find someone exactly like that. Eventually people will find what they’re looking for. But what I really wanted to talk about in this chapter is the meaning of love itself.

To me, love is the willingness to give all of you to another person, to not afraid to sacrifice everything and anything you have for the sake of another human being. This is often called an unconditional love, and people mostly experience this kind of love with their children.
But this kind of love does exist in between two adults as well, it’s just that we rarely see this because most of us are afraid of this kind of love.
We’re too scared of getting hurt, of being disappointed and being torn apart for having to love someone else like that.
And since we’re not willing to risk everything, we then choose the easier kind of love, in which we choose our partners based on our needs. If we think that this person can fulfill what we need the most, then this is the one. And don’t get me wrong, this is 100% love as well.
I don’t think there is any right or wrong when it comes to love. Everyone experience it differently and we all have different love languages as well.
I personally only want that kind of love: the kind that makes your heart goes slower and faster at the same time even after twenty years later, the kind that makes you want to give up everything for this other person’s happiness, the kind that makes you a better person because of this person. And I believe 100% with my whole heart that this other person will love me the same. But this kind of love will also have its own obstacles. It won’t be easy at times and it definitely won’t be a smooth ride all the way. But hey, life is hard and very unpredictable in itself. If I don’t truly love my partner in life, how can love survive till death do us part?
But this kind of love can happen only after we have found our true self, after we feel secure about ourselves and after we know what self-love actually means.
Because if we don’t, sadly we won’t be able to know the difference between an asshole and a prince charming, and we will be the one ended up getting hurt all the time.
I can speak like this because it’s based on my own experience, and I have been hurt many times for loving someone so deep until I realize that I have to find myself first, be content for who I am and be happy by myself in order for me to have the right kind of love for me.
No one is capable of making you happy other than yourself, not even the love of your life. Because once you let other person be the reason for you to be happy or unhappy, that puts so much weight on that person’s shoulder, sometimes more than they can carry. Because happiness is found within ourselves. We have to be able to be content with ourselves and celebrate the unique, one of a kind amazing person that we are to be truly happy.
Once we find that right balance within ourselves, then we can attract the right kind of love for us.

And believe me, the person that is made for us really does exist. We just have to believe it enough and be willing to wait for the right person to come along, rather than settle with whoever we could find.





So Autumn, I heard that you’re coming soon

Hey loves

Can you believe that it’s almost fall season again? I’m so excited that I finally get to layer up and wear boots again 🙂 🙂

To be honest, I love food so much that it has become a struggle for me to be skinny and lose weight, so fall and winter season has always been my favorite because I finally have an excuse to indulge 😀

Anyways, now let’s talk about the fun stuff shall we 🙂

Apparently your summer maxi skirt is still wearable during fall season (and spring too!) and you can still look extremely fashionable wearing it at the same time

Sometimes when wearing a regular legging and throw on a boots seem to be a bit boring to you, you can try to ransack your closet and find some maxi skirt that can be worn with a simple vest or a baseball jacket even.



Like always, I love fashion and I’m really passionate about it but I don’t always buy the latest trend or follow what’s trending right now because believe me, I don’t like spending money on unnecessary stuffs

Whilst I also love elegant and sophisticated style, it makes it harder for me to satisfy my passion in fashion without spending too much. But I made it work somehow, by buying some key pieces and to only buy some style that will last long. And if I love some of the latest trends, I made sure that they won’t cost more than $90 ($40 sometimes, depending on my budget at the time)

For everything else, I always try to mix and match what I have in my closet and create some new styles. So for those of you who just joined me on my journey, welcome and stay tuned for my next experiment in fashion 🙂

Something Old, Something New (You Too can Style it Like a Pro)

Hello everyone!

How’s your week going so far?

Today I decided to talk about styling trend clothes with something old – or something that we already have (but most probably hidden) in our closet

And it’s so easy to forget about some piece of clothing that we have if we just don’t see it in front of our eyes, right?

So right now, if you would, take a closer look inside your closet and search through all of your old vests, tank tops, romper, jumpsuits, or even dresses that you can combine with the new trend pieces (in-the-now hot items) to create a new, fresher look and the best part about this is, you get to feel so proud of yourself for being able to reuse some old stuffs and not spending more money toward new trends that won’t last for too long.

So after you’re done with your treasure hunting, now let’s talk about the top that we can wear to create a new cold shoulder look

The best top to work with is off shoulder tops, and especially with ruffle sleeves to create the drama (but a regular sleeve or bell sleeve works too if you’re not into too much statement)

If you would combine this with a vest, it would create a cold shoulder look like this picture below


But if you would combine this with that long vest from last season, now you have the newest vest of the season (plus, you get to feel satisfied for not throwing things out, don’t you?)


And you could also combine this off shoulder top with a romper or jumpsuit or even an old dress too!

So go ahead, experiment! Try all of them and see which ones you like

You’ll be surprised at how much more style you get to create just by combining something old and something new together


Thank you for reading my loves, and see you next time!

Is finding the right one for you really worth the wait – Who should I date : Part 1

It’s not easy to have faith, especially when you live in a society that doesn’t have the same philosophy as you. Waiting is very tiring and there are times when you feel like you just want to give up and ignore the red flags and just settle. If you think you will be happy with your choice, then by all means, settle. To each their own is true when it comes to finding love. Some people just want someone to company them. Some wants a security in all kinds of forms. Some wants some kind of a prince charming to be with for whatever reason. Some craves the adrenaline rush of a bad boy project. And then, some wants to have that real love – to be with someone they’re meant to be with.

We all have some sort of idea of who our ideal partner should be. For me, I always fall for a certain type of guy as well. But just because that type of person is what you wanted in your heart (or head, for some people), does that mean that he is the right one for you? Some people can give someone a chance and could be in love with that person, but some really can’t force love to happen when it really wasn’t there in the first place, and as for me, this is what happens. I really can’t force love when I don’t feel it ever since the beginning. So for me, I know that I can’t just settle with anyone no matter how good that person is. And it’s getting harder as I’m becoming more successful in life to actually find a guy who is man enough to have the confidence to approach me. I couldn’t help but ask the question, is it wrong for girls to be able to shine bright and be successful on their own? Do I have to put some boundaries on myself and that I can’t fly too high just because I’m a girl?

I think it’s time for the world to realize that this is not just a man’s world, and just because a girl can work that doesn’t mean that she can’t still be a girl. But for any alpha females out there who happen to be reading this, please allow me to say this: no matter who you choose your partner to be, whether it be a beta male or not, the guy still deserves your respect. I’ve been in that position before and I know having such power at work can seriously impact your personal life. You become this tough person because at first, you were required to be one and then after a while you become accustomed to it until later it becomes your identity. Some females are born tough. Some become tough because of the situation and if this is you, please look back inside to find the person you truly are, because that tough  personality you’ve been putting out is only a mask. And it’s just too tiring to be wearing a mask for the rest of your life. It’s okay to be that naive, vulnerable and soft girl that you are. Don’t be afraid to show who you truly are just because you’re afraid to get hurt. Don’t get too caught up with your own defense mechanism that you no longer can remember who you are on the inside. Everything is about finding the right balance in life. I believe that no matter how the world is leading toward feminism, as a woman we have a responsibility to respect our man if we want our relationship to work.

So as I was saying, is being with the love of your life really worth the wait or not, I will always say, yes. A thousand times yes. Yes, it’s really worth getting through every single heartbreak from every wrong guys to finally find the right one for you. Because this person will be able to see who you truly are, not what you appear to be on the surface. And that is why I am still here waiting on that person who can see me for who I am, not what I seem to be.

… to be continued


How to Create Different Looks on the Same Outfit

This pink top has been my long time favorite for a year now and I have been using it many times and styled it in different ways on other occasions.

People have been telling me to stick with a more simpler outfit as those kinds are easier to mix and match and people won’t even realize that you’ve been wearing the same outfit; and whilst this is true, I like to mix these “simpler” outfit with a more complex one to make a fashion statement, like this pink sleeves ruffle top.

The key to having many different styles with an outfit is to layer things up. Like in this picture, I combined my sweet pink ruffles sleeve top with a simple white cardigan to create a chic look. I can also pair the top with a jumpsuit to create a different, edgier look. Or, I can even throw a dress on top of it to make a more feminine look.

You can try to mix and match your top or dress or shirt with what you already have in your closet – such as a vest, tank top, jumpsuit, you name it. If you don’t try them on, you won’t know what it would look like. Don’t be afraid to do some experiments on your own.



Top: you can find something similar here, for only under $30 ruffle sleeve top

Vest: Zara from previous season, but this is something new that I have an eye on pink blazer dress

Pants: I really like this one culottes white pants

Or this one wide culottes pants


Thank you so much for reading, I hope you I’ll see you next time on my next post



A Lesson I Learned from Mrs. Potts

People say a lot of awful things in anger. It is our choice whether or not to listen

~ Mrs. Potts (Beauty and the Beast)

Once a word is said, we can’t take it back no matter how bad we want it to. I think in life, we all have experienced this (many for some) when we get upset or mad or sad and even though we may not mean what we said, it wouldn’t matter because we can’t take it back.

We know what it feels like to regret the things we have said and wished that we could take it back if we could but when it comes to other people we can’t seem to give them the benefit of the doubt that they didn’t mean what they said when they said those hurtful words. But then again, it is somewhat understandable since we don’t know what’s inside other people’s hearts anyway, right? So of course when we feel hurt we would all the sudden go to our defensive mode and protect ourselves so that we won’t get hurt again. And sometimes, if the hurt they feel is very painful, they will start their offensive mode and start saying hurtful things as well to hurt the other person back.

Sometimes, people say hurtful things to you and they really don’t mean any of it. But it is really up to us whether or not we want to listen. If we choose to listen to those words and let it get to us, it’s the same with taking the dump other people throw at us and eat it. No. We’re supposed to let it fall on the ground so our garden can have the nutrition it needs and therefore grow. These people that throw dumps on us, sometimes they can be a total stranger or sometimes they’re very close to us, but no matter what, understand that they are just human beings who happened to have a lot of dumps in their unhappy life (because happy people don’t go around throwing dumps on other people) and they don’t know better ways to distribute their dumps other than throwing it out to other people.

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People say a lot of things in anger. It is our choice whether or not to listen.

So instead of being angry at them, we should feel sorry for them for being the person that they are. And I’m not just saying this because it seems like a good writing or anything, but I also know what it feels like to be receiving the dumps all the time and more than anything, I know that it is very hard to try to ignore and not let those words get to us. But no matter how bad the person is, know that at least they deserve the benefit of the doubt and that they too would regret what they said to us, even if we will never know that for sure for the rest of our lives. Because if we want to take in every single hurtful words that we receive in our lifetime, I’m afraid that we won’t be able to process it through and heal our hearts fully, because those dumps will always keep on being thrown at us during our lifetime. So instead, for our better self, let it go. Don’t take it in; let it fall on your ground. Let your garden grow instead.

Who Should I Date : A Love Letter – An Introduction

Have you ever stop and think for a moment, that there are over seven billion people in this world and you’re supposed to find that one person that you are meant to share your life with?

But sometimes, we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t; the ones who will stay and the ones who’ll leave. Maybe the happy ending is this: knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment, YOU NEVER GAVE UP HOPE

~ He’s just not that into you (2009)

This letter is not about finding our happy ending, not about how to get a guy or how to spot a good guy from all the bad ones, and definitely not about how to play the game (or the rules – however you wanna call it) to get your dream guy. This is a letter for those who wants to get a deeper understanding about love and relationship and for those who still wants to believe in real love.

There are many types of love and many reasons of why people choose their love partner; some choose the ones they are familiar with, some want the easy ones they can manipulate so that they can always get what they want, some want a certain type because they feel safer that way, some want a life partner and a best friend, some want someone who will challenge them to be a better person everyday. Now I can’t say that one is better than the other and which one is the right one, because everyone has different priorities about who their love partner should be. Who we want to be with depends on our priority in life and our perspective in seeing love.

Now after I’ve said all of that, to try to find that one person who will truly love you and value you how you deserve to be valued, you are bound to have some errors and encounter a couple of wrong “frogs” until you will eventually find your prince charming. But how do we know and differentiate a lesson from a soulmate? People keep on saying : spot the red flags and yes, they are right. Don’t be blinded by it. But how to be able to see it when you’re deeply in love? Trust me, your gut feeling is there for a reason. Don’t try to change him or hope that he will change one day. Don’t justify an action and don’t keep on thinking that no one is perfect so maybe I should just accept their weaknesses too. I’m not saying that this statement is not true, but when you are with someone you’re meant to be with, this wouldn’t even come up on your mind. You will think, he is such a mess and there are this and this that I really can’t stand it when he does that sometimes but hey you know what? When he loves me or when he looks at me he makes me feel like I’m the most beautiful girl in the world. This is what would happen when you meet the right person. His strength will supersede his weaknesses and you won’t even have to justify anything.

Don’t lose hope; I know it can very tiring especially when we try to find that one person among everyone else


There are those guidance and rules out there of how to get your man and you should play the game if you want to be with the man of your dream – and I don’t really like that game. Yes we can play the game and yes you could be with someone you want but the real question is, does he want you? Most people are looking for the end result that they can be with someone they want but a marriage itself is not the ending here. In contrary, it is just the beginning of your new life. This is where you will see the world on another level and either you grow together or you grow apart but definitely all of us will grow. We won’t be the same person we are ten years from now, we weren’t even the same person ten years ago. If you are presenting yourself in some ways that you’re not and playing the game just to get a guy, I don’t think you will be truly happy later on in life.

Keep in mind that not all guys can fall into a certain criteria, so if you say that this guy is doing this so it means that he’s like this – this is not always the case because guys have different characters too. But there is one thing they have in common: all guys are simple minded. So if he is not texting or calling you or looking for you, he really is just not that into you. Even for some guys, when they do call and look for you it doesn’t always mean that they’re that much into you either.

Yes I agree that it is very hard to find a good guy out there and like I said earlier, we all have different priorities about wanting who our love partner is so we will get hurt along the way when we meet the wrong ones but know for sure that every time you get your heart broken, you are just that one step closer into finding the right one. Don’t lose hope; I know it can be very tiring especially when we try to find that one person among everyone else. You will encounter some people who will make you question yourself as to whether you’re worthy of love but keep on believing that you are, and one day you will meet someone who will truly love and appreciate you the way you’re supposed to be loved and appreciated.

Give Us Some Time To Balance It All and Give You the Best of Both Worlds

This is to all of us who can relate to this story:

No, really, we get it. We are the generation who are supposed to know better because we were raised better, trained better. We are the last generation before the “Millennial”. We didn’t have all the privilege as the Millennial do because we were raised in different standards – we were raised in “old style” where we’re always expected to be well behaved and we need to show respect no matter what it is. And we’re already used to it, believe us, that you always expected more out of us anyway and we’re completely fine with it.

And to some of us who happen to have to follow the path of “inheriting” the family business, I’m here to say, I feel you. Some people might tell you that you’re lucky and all for having everything ready for you and not having to have to go through all the process of finding your dream job and climbing your corporate ladder but hey guess what? When we are given the chance, we actually want to do all that. We actually find all those things to be the luxurious things in life – to be able to decide about your own life on your own for once, because we didn’t get to do all that. Our lives are pretty much predetermined already and as much as our parents want to say that they’re not controlling us but in actuality, they do. And no, they won’t ever admit it, I’m sorry. So here we are, being taught to be all strong and independent so that we can continue to be the backbone of our family (the last time I checked an independent person doesn’t run back to his/her parent and ask for a permission about a business deal-they just do it themselves) but yet we also need to be submissive to our parents still, because this is how we are raised, right? Ok – if I can please have a moment here please: Can you all please help us out by at least give us a little bit of time to adjust so we can be ourselves again?

All of this pressure that you’re putting in our shoulder – to tell you the truth, is a bit too much to handle for a 20 something year old. And it’s not that we can’t do it- but please do realize that we are still young, and we are still adapting and growing here. Please know that at the bottom of our hearts, we truly love and respect our parents the most because yes, we were raised better and yes, we know better. Respect, however, comes in many forms. Just because you don’t control the money anymore that doesn’t mean that we would stop respecting you because our respect and love do not come from you providing us the money. And please do not mistaken that you need the power to control us for us to be able to respect you. In actuality, our respect and love comes unconditionally to you, because you have given birth to us. Because you have done the best you possibly could in ways you know how to raise us. And for that, we are eternally grateful to you, our parents, for making us the person that we are right now.

So yes, we are the generation who are supposed to know better and we were taught better. It’s not easy to be us, but we just have to deal with the cards we’ve been dealt and just have to make the best of it. One day some day, life will all make sense and we will know the reason why they have to be this hard on us.