It’s not easy to have faith, especially when you live in a society that doesn’t have the same philosophy as you. Waiting is very tiring and there are times when you feel like you just want to give up and ignore the red flags and just settle. If you think you will be happy with your choice, then by all means, settle. To each their own is true when it comes to finding love. Some people just want someone to company them. Some wants a security in all kinds of forms. Some wants some kind of a prince charming to be with for whatever reason. Some craves the adrenaline rush of a bad boy project. And then, some wants to have that real love – to be with someone they’re meant to be with.
We all have some sort of idea of who our ideal partner should be. For me, I always fall for a certain type of guy as well. But just because that type of person is what you wanted in your heart (or head, for some people), does that mean that he is the right one for you? Some people can give someone a chance and could be in love with that person, but some really can’t force love to happen when it really wasn’t there in the first place, and as for me, this is what happens. I really can’t force love when I don’t feel it ever since the beginning. So for me, I know that I can’t just settle with anyone no matter how good that person is. And it’s getting harder as I’m becoming more successful in life to actually find a guy who is man enough to have the confidence to approach me. I couldn’t help but ask the question, is it wrong for girls to be able to shine bright and be successful on their own? Do I have to put some boundaries on myself and that I can’t fly too high just because I’m a girl?
I think it’s time for the world to realize that this is not just a man’s world, and just because a girl can work that doesn’t mean that she can’t still be a girl. But for any alpha females out there who happen to be reading this, please allow me to say this: no matter who you choose your partner to be, whether it be a beta male or not, the guy still deserves your respect. I’ve been in that position before and I know having such power at work can seriously impact your personal life. You become this tough person because at first, you were required to be one and then after a while you become accustomed to it until later it becomes your identity. Some females are born tough. Some become tough because of the situation and if this is you, please look back inside to find the person you truly are, because that tough personality you’ve been putting out is only a mask. And it’s just too tiring to be wearing a mask for the rest of your life. It’s okay to be that naive, vulnerable and soft girl that you are. Don’t be afraid to show who you truly are just because you’re afraid to get hurt. Don’t get too caught up with your own defense mechanism that you no longer can remember who you are on the inside. Everything is about finding the right balance in life. I believe that no matter how the world is leading toward feminism, as a woman we have a responsibility to respect our man if we want our relationship to work.
So as I was saying, is being with the love of your life really worth the wait or not, I will always say, yes. A thousand times yes. Yes, it’s really worth getting through every single heartbreak from every wrong guys to finally find the right one for you. Because this person will be able to see who you truly are, not what you appear to be on the surface. And that is why I am still here waiting on that person who can see me for who I am, not what I seem to be.
… to be continued