People say a lot of awful things in anger. It is our choice whether or not to listen
~ Mrs. Potts (Beauty and the Beast)
Once a word is said, we can’t take it back no matter how bad we want it to. I think in life, we all have experienced this (many for some) when we get upset or mad or sad and even though we may not mean what we said, it wouldn’t matter because we can’t take it back.
We know what it feels like to regret the things we have said and wished that we could take it back if we could but when it comes to other people we can’t seem to give them the benefit of the doubt that they didn’t mean what they said when they said those hurtful words. But then again, it is somewhat understandable since we don’t know what’s inside other people’s hearts anyway, right? So of course when we feel hurt we would all the sudden go to our defensive mode and protect ourselves so that we won’t get hurt again. And sometimes, if the hurt they feel is very painful, they will start their offensive mode and start saying hurtful things as well to hurt the other person back.
Sometimes, people say hurtful things to you and they really don’t mean any of it. But it is really up to us whether or not we want to listen. If we choose to listen to those words and let it get to us, it’s the same with taking the dump other people throw at us and eat it. No. We’re supposed to let it fall on the ground so our garden can have the nutrition it needs and therefore grow. These people that throw dumps on us, sometimes they can be a total stranger or sometimes they’re very close to us, but no matter what, understand that they are just human beings who happened to have a lot of dumps in their unhappy life (because happy people don’t go around throwing dumps on other people) and they don’t know better ways to distribute their dumps other than throwing it out to other people.
So instead of being angry at them, we should feel sorry for them for being the person that they are. And I’m not just saying this because it seems like a good writing or anything, but I also know what it feels like to be receiving the dumps all the time and more than anything, I know that it is very hard to try to ignore and not let those words get to us. But no matter how bad the person is, know that at least they deserve the benefit of the doubt and that they too would regret what they said to us, even if we will never know that for sure for the rest of our lives. Because if we want to take in every single hurtful words that we receive in our lifetime, I’m afraid that we won’t be able to process it through and heal our hearts fully, because those dumps will always keep on being thrown at us during our lifetime. So instead, for our better self, let it go. Don’t take it in; let it fall on your ground. Let your garden grow instead.